Lessons Learned From First Year Out of College

It has almost been a year since graduating college. The first year after college proved to be a huge adjustment. Becoming an adult has turned out to be rather overrated.

But I have learned some important lessons.

1. Exercise is a must

I’m very lazy when it comes to exercising. Getting my butt up is such a hassle. But I have realized that I have to move my body or else I will get fat.

To avoid sitting all day, I take a walk outside. This allows me to breathe in fresh air and appreciate Mother Nature.

2. Care about what you’re putting in your body

Eating junk food was my favorite activity growing up. In college, I stuffed my face due to the stress.

After graduating, I began to feel rather sleepy and sick when I ate too much greasy food. Now, I only eat fast food to twice a week. I drink tea daily too.

3. Make time for others

In school, people are right there to hang out. Once you hit the real world, you classmates are not physically there. They become busy with their own jobs and lives.

That is why you have to put in the effort to reconnect with others or else your friendships will slowly fall apart.

4. Keep learning

It’s easy to let your brain rot after college. That is why you have to keep your learning up. However, learning doesn’t have to be in a classroom. You can take online courses for free or take part in a community based class. Traveling is another great option too.

5. Focus on your goals

You’ll probably face plenty of rejection. I’ve received so many no or things didn’t work out. Yet, you can’t quit. People who succeed are the ones who keep going.

 

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Made Some Stir-fried Chicken

Yesterday, I had one whole raw chicken breast left after making my chicken noodle soup.

I decided to use the remaining chicken for stir-fried!

First, I sliced the chicken into strips.

Then, looking through my fridge, I found some Korean BBQ sauce and chili oil. I combined the sauce and oil to marinate the chicken overnight.

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After preparing the chicken, I cut some bell peppers into pieces.

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Today, I pan fried the chicken for seven minutes.

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At the seven minute mark, I poured in the bell peppers in the pan. I continued cooking for three more minutes.

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When I was done cooking, I served the stir-fried over rice!

I only ate half of the stir-fried for lunch. Saved the rest for dinner.

For dinner, I ate my stir-fried with toast.

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Finally Cooked Chicken Noodle Soup By Myself

Today, I finally began adulting, which is internet slang for doing adult things, by cooking chicken noodle soup by myself.

First step was to read the recipe. I checked what ingredients I had at home and which I had to buy.

Then, I went to the grocery store to buy the ingredients. I won’t deny that grocery shopping is daunting for me. I usually panic on knowing if the produce is good or bad quality.

Carrots were one of the ingredients I needed. In the carrot section, I saw a bag of raw carrots. But there was also a bag of peeled baby carrots. So, I was lazy by buying the baby carrots. No desire to peel anything.

Once I got home, I prepped first. Using knives scare me usually because I’m scared of getting cut. Well, I was very careful with cutting the celery and chicken.

Also, I seasoned the chicken with salt and pepper.

I first cooked was the chicken. That did not take long since I cut the chicken into small pieces.

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Next, in a separate pot, I stirred some carrots, garlic, and onion.

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After a few minutes, I added the chicken, celery, and chicken stock.

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Then, I dumped raw pasta into the pot because I wanted the pasta to soak in the broth.

For twenty minutes, I boiled the pot while stirring occasionally.

The soup turned out to be yummy!

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Very proud of myself for cooking by myself.

Get Used To Not Knowing

There is no guide on how to live or even plan life after college.

As much as we want to control things, life won’t work the way we want it to. It is a hard lesson to swallow. I for one have been struggling with it the most. 

Not knowing is quite scary. Questions start popping on what will happen next. Most of the time, the answer won’t appear until it happens.

But, we should not stress out on not knowing. We should embrace the present. Whatever happens next, embrace it. 

Committing These Beauty Care Mistakes

Acne is the common enemy of most people; it has been a huge pain of mine. My skin has gone from super disgusting to okay and then bad again.

The way that I treated my skin was the main reason for my bad skin.

I have committed these terrible beauty care mistakes:

1. Over exfoliating the face

I had no idea that exfoliating your face too much can actually lead to breakouts. In college, I washed my face twice a day everyday and my skin experienced dryness. Exfoliating your skin is important to remove dirt, but over doing it will  strip the nutrition out of your skin.

Now, I exfoliate every other night and my skin has been a lot smoother.

2. Not changing up products

My friend was surprised when I told her that I was using the same products for a year. She explained to me that I should be using different products every four months. The face get used to them over time, which makes them less effective.

3. Not putting Vaseline on before bed

My lips are normally dry. Recently, I’ve been putting Vaseline on my lips before going to bed. My lips aren’t so dry in the morning anymore.

Appreciate the Little Things

We all hope that major changes occur in our lives: job promotion, pay raise, new car, or boyfriend/girlfriend. Yet, life doesn’t give us what we want right away. While you wait for a huge change, appreciate the little things.

Today, I was tired from standing and found a bench.

I sat down and starred out in the far distance for a few minutes. For those few minutes, I was not thinking about what I needed to get done today. I wasn’t panicking if I was being productive. Instead, I just relaxed.

Even when you think nothing is happening in your life, remember to enjoy the small moments.

Five Things I Learned In College

It has been over six months since I graduated college. I am slowly figuring out my life. I am glad that I went to college because I learned a lot from it.

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Me in Beijing

Here are five things I learned in college:

  1. Always be curious

People prefer to stick to one thing only. That causes them to not branch off. In life, you should always be striving to learn more. Never be afraid to learn a new skill or experience something different, such as traveling on your own for the first time.

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Kashgar, China
  1. Communication is important

If you have a problem with people, you have to tell them. Passive aggressive attitude will get you nowhere. When you tell people the issue, explain why it bothers you.

  1. Be organized

Life loves to throw things at us, but you have to stay organized. You have to know when work assignments are due. If you drop the ball, you will get in trouble.

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The Book Bar in Denver
  1. Advocate for yourself

Before college, I was a mouse. When I got to college, I quickly realized that I had to speak up. If you don’t stand up for yourself, you will get disrespected.

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  1. Give people a chance
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With my friends Lily and Bethany at Beijing University (Bei Da)

Socializing can be one of the scariest things possible, but you can’t be shy. People are not here to bite you. You can’t truly know people until you get to know them. Never be afraid to say hi first.  

5 Rules on Writing/Blogging

School loves to tell us how to write. We’re told that using contractions is wrong. A lot of professors make ridiculous requirements, such as requiring ten pages for an essay.

Well, a lot of things school teaches us are wrong in the real world.

Recently, I have been a contributor writer at Slant News. I have learned a few things about writing.

1. Don’t ramble

Readers have a short attention span. Generally, articles should be between 500 to 800 words. If you ramble, people won’t bother reading the whole thing.

2. Better to keep it short and simple

In school, it’s encouraged to write long sentences and paragraphs. In the real world, that isn’t okay. When writing an paragraph, it’s better to have only one sentence rather than five sentences. People want concise writing.

3. Only give reverent information

Background information is important, but only give facts that matter to your story. Dumping random facts on people will annoy them.

4. Know your audience

You have to cater your writing to whoever is reading it. If it’s for a specific professional crowd, you should incorporate their jargon into your work.

5. Have a clear point of view

Stick to your voice. Know what you want to convey to others.

 

Finding Your Inner Strength

So many amazing moments have happened to me since May, such as seeing Washington D.C. for the first time. Along with the positive experiences, there have been low points too. With the low points, I have been forced to find my inner strength.

The task of finding a job has been a difficult one. I have applied for a lot of positions and maybe get a few interviews. With each interview, I go in there confidently, but I end up getting rejected.

Getting rejected is never fun. I question why I did not get the position. Taking the rejection is hard, but I can’t dwell on it.

By not getting a job, I worry that my life is not going anywhere. I panic about not advancing with my adulthood. Life has been a roller-coaster ride.

As much as I want to have a pity party, I can’t. I have realized that I have to find my inner strength in order to succeed. Finding it is a difficult task, but I must.

Everyday, I wake up with a positive attitude. I look forward to what will unfold for the day. Keeping my head up is hard, but I refuse to quit.

Recently, I have been fortunate to receive some freelance work. Getting these gigs has boosted my confidence back up. I am very happy right now.

In my process of finding my inner strength, I now understand that inner strength is not just about being strong; it is to guide you on how to find your light in the darkness. Inner strength is knowing that you will be fine no matter what.

How to Make Your Life Better

People love to fuss that college will be the best years of your life. That makes you wonder if life after college sucks. Assuming life sucks after college will put you in a negative mindset.

I won’t deny that life after college has been rough, but I have been finding way to keep me moving.

Here are five things that I have been doing:

1. Eating better

I used to eat horribly growing up. For breakfast, I would eat ramen noodle with rice. It would fill me up, but I wasn’t being healthy.

Now, I make sure to have some protein like egg and other healthy options like fruit for breakfast. I have also cut back on sugar; I only drink soda once a week. Tea is my preferred drink now.

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2. Make new friends

I have been meeting new people randomly. This past summer, I worked at a summer conference, where I became pals with people who just recently graduated college like me too. Since then, we have stayed in touch.

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3. Exercise

Exercising is not my favorite activity, but it’s important. My health isn’t something to take for granted. Now, I jog in the morning.

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4. Pursue new activities

I have decided to enter into some writing competitions. Never done it before, but I figured why not. It’s time for me to try new things.

5. Meet up with old friends

Never forget your friends. It’s easy to get busy and not have time for others, but try. I have been scheduling times to meet up with old college friends at Starbucks to catch up.

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